Carl and I traditionally enjoy ‘jacket potato and film night’ on Fridays – loosely translated as us spending an evening together, even if we deviate from the obvious menu choice.
We have been advised by my Mum to ensure that we still get out for date nights and spend dedicated time together – after all, just because we are about to become parents does not cancel out our previous relationship(s) as husband and wife / a couple / best friends. It’s important we still make time for each other and remember that we have conversation topics other than pregnancy/children. Mum reminded me that she and Dad always made time to go out together, even when we were small. When we went on a family holiday to Center Parcs, we would spend time in the kindergarten while they had some time together. If they went away for a mini break or holiday without us, we would have a blast with our grandparents in Pembrokeshire enjoying having our own holiday and adventures without them!
Last Friday Carl and I had an impromptu date night meal out at The Plough, Coldharbour, which I would highly recommend. Beautiful food and a decent food portion along with being a friendly pub, certainly more welcoming than our local!
Last night we stayed in and enjoyed a film together (while I fidgeted every 2 minutes trying to get/stay comfortable); it isn’t always about going out and spending money. Just because we eat together every evening, there’s something slightly different about the nights when you actually spend time together. Carl made some amazing pork kebabs using our new handmade bespoke skewers, courtesy of Swann Forge, and we chilled out.
No iPads or iPhones, just hanging out watching a film and having a laugh.
I’m sure this will become a bit trickier when Bud is born (and require more preparation!) but we’ve always had our little nights out and we are determined not to let these stop – what are future grandparents and aunts/uncles for if not to babysit (sorry, I mean ‘bond’…)!
When you become parent, you are still the people you were before, just plus one (or more!). Don’t stop making time for each other or you’ll be sitting there in 20 years, when the children have left home, going “umm, hi….I don’t believe we’ve spoken about anything else in the last 2 decades…who are you?”, when you should be going “right, we’ve done our job and they’ve spread their wings, let’s continue discovering the world together!!”.
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