It’s not often that I have the energy to read during night feeds, but last night I popped on to a blog I follow and had a little read.
The post I stumbled upon concerned leaving a child at kindergarten (nursery/pre school) when they are hysterically crying. The author took her child home, saying she took no victory in leaving her child when they were so upset. She knows her child best and did what she felt was right.
The comments from other mums! Wow. I’ve often noticed that, online, mums can be very ‘my way is the only way’, irrespective of different situations, the fact every child (and parent) is different, despite them never having met the parties concerned.
Some comments implied she was ruining her child and would end up accompanying them on interviews and to work as an adult! Some accused her of failing to prepare her child for life. Others were teachers saying that parents like her made the situation worse by either removing the child or staying to check they were ok.
Whether any of these views are right or wrong is irrelevant. What makes people think this is an acceptable way to talk to another person, another parent, a fellow mum?
The Internet is faceless and anonymity is a mask so many people hide behind. I can’t put into words how vehemently I disagree with people pushing their opinions onto others or judging how other parents see fit to raise their children. THEIR children. Unless you have been there with those parents every day, you have no right to judge.
Maybe her child suffers from serious anxiety…or maybe her child is just clingy. That does not make her decision to remove her child wrong. Sancti mums, please get off your high horse.
As I have said time and time again. Parents should always do what is right for them.